Relationship Sabotage : Unconscious Factors that Destroy Couples, Marriages, and Families

Hidden forces - memories of past poor or hurtful relationships - drive repressed feelings and emotions that are often outside our awareness. And though we want to love and be loved, those forces can wreak havoc and cause relationship sabotage, destroying couples and even whole families.

The scenario is so common, explains the author, that often people get divorced "without even fully understanding why".

In many cases, the lingering but unconscious memories of lessons learned as far back as childhood strongly affect our most intimate interpersonal relationships, fuelling marital power-games, extra-marital affairs, addictions, poor parenting and a host of other harmful actions.

But we can learn to recognise these "imprints" and move past them to build rewarding relationships.

This disturbing yet fascinating text shows us why some people carry a psychological need to sabotage their intimate relationships.

In cases where children are involved during marital sabotage, it is the most sensitive child who bears the symptoms of the unhealthy family, exhibiting behaviours from acting-out to developing mental illness. And the hidden forces, and unconscious factors, can be passed from generation to generation, creating a trail of failed relationships.

This book makes us aware of these issues, and gives us the tools to break the cycle.