You Can't Say You Can't Play

Who of us can remember the pain and humiliation of being rejected by our classmates?

We remember the uncertainty of separating from our home and entering school as strangers, and more than the relief of making friends, we recall the cruel moments of our own isolation as well as those children we knew were destined to remain strangers.

In this book Vivian Paley employs a strategy to probe the moral dimensions of the classroom.

She departs from her previous work by extending her analysis to children through the fifth grade, all the while weaving remarkable fairy tale into her narrative description.

Paley introduces a new rule - "You can't say you can't play" - to her kindergarten classroom and solicits the opinions of older children regarding the fairness of such a rule.

Readers hear from those who are rejected as well as those who do the rejecting.

One child, objecting to the rule, says, "It will be fairer, but how are we going to have any fun?" Another child defends the principle of classroom bosses as a more benign way of excluding the unwanted. In a twist, Paley mixes fantasy and reality, and introduces a new voice into the debate: Magpie, a magical bird, who brings lonely people to a place where a full share of the sun is rightfully theirs.

Myth and morality begin to proclaim the same message and the schoolhouse will be the crucible in which the new order is examined.

A struggle ensues and even the Magpie stories cannot avoid the scrutiny of this merciless pack of social philosophers who will not be easily caught in a morality tale. "You Can't Say You Can't Play" speaks to some of our most deeply held beliefs.

Is exclusivity part of human nature? Can we legislate fairness and still nurture creativity and individuality?

Can children be freed from the habit of rejection? These are some of the questions. The answers are to be found in the words of Paley's schoolchildren and in the wisdom of their teacher who respectfully listens to them.